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The distinction between sex drive and sexual attraction makes total sense (e.g. experiencing some desire or arousal without it being directed towards someone). But you also seem to make a distinction between "libido" and "sex drive", whereas I've always heard those terms used interchangeably. Can you speak a bit about how you distinguish between libido and sex drive?

You’re a very well educated, articulate person. I can read about sex in books, I find mgk and Halsey sexually attractive.. but I don’t see someone in real life and think about sex. The thought of someone touching me makes me extremely uncomfortable, I’ve been single for 5 years because I’m so confused about who I’m attracted to and what I’m comfortable with.. I’ve have partners that I’ve been sexually attracted to, but I’ve had partners I’m attracted to because of interests.. on dating apps I’m instantly put off if they make a sexual comment.. no no.. it makes me feel sick. Thank you, I’ll definitely be looking into this more.

I don't consider myself ace, but it's always nice to hear from people who are. I can feel sexual/romantic attraction to people and I did in the past, but I'm an introverted person who doesn't go out much outside of going to work, where I almost never see anyone my age/preferred gender so meeting someone I'd be attracted to is suuuper rare for me at this point in life, even if just due to circumstances. But I'm fine with it. My days feel busy as is and I don't know where another person would fit in. I sometimes think that if one day I woke up to a world where I had a good husband, I'd be all in, but at the moment I don't feel like it's worth it for me to go through all the struggle of deliberately looking for someone. So it's good to see more people who are in a similar boat for one reason or another. As I'm approaching 30 I'm more and more realizing that I'd probably rather not have children than have them, which is also comforting, because that means I'm not being pushed into finding a partner for that reason. I know someone who is approaching 40 and desperately looking for a partner to have a kid with and that sounds like a nightmare.

This was such an informative and intelligent view of an ace life and I loved every minute of it! I especially loved when u said several times that there is no one way to be asexual and it’s ok to change identities because sometimes I think ppl frown upon ppl changing labels and how they relate and feel and I appreciated that so much! Much love ❤

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Thank you for sharing this. You have helped me, on my perspective on asexuality.

As someone who is asexual and aromatic this is quite helpful and positive. I am 38 years old and it was a long journey for me to figure this out. I have no interest in a relationship or romance. I have no problem with seeing sex or stuff like that but romance on the other hand makes me uncomfortable to watch. Like romantic movies and such like, oddly enough I do like to read romantic books but not watch movies with romance in them. I thought for the longest time that I was pansexual and just hadn’t found the right person for me.

I enjoy sex so much with my boyfriend but I'm not someone who could have a one night stand or just hook up..I'm way to sensative for that. My body for me is private and I trust my boyfriend. That's how it works for me. Sexually my boyfriend and I match well and that adds to the turn on.

"Do you like anal!?" That was so fabulous 😂😂😂

I’m not ace, a mother, or a foster carer, but I’ve been watching your videos since your menstrual products days and you always have really intelligent and insightful content that I enjoy regardless of the topic!!

Did you include the link to the different types?

Thank you for this!! I’m ace and am trying to figure out how to go about life.

You really don't get tactical voting do you!

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I am soooo dancing under the asexual umbrella! 🤣☂️ Always how I will describe it now ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💜🩷 I would also say, people find me very confusing as a bi-romantic asexual. "How can you fancy everyone and no one?". I'm just dancing man! Leave me be ☀️💃

Thank you so very much for being open and helping others understand better. Videos like this help others not feel so alone in their experiences.

As someone who tends to fit jnto the stereotype of asexuality (aromantic, sex-repulsed, does not want to be in a partnered relationship or have children) I love hearing from people who sit on different parts of the ace spectrum than I do. We really are a diverse community. It's so silly, but coming out as Ace really does open you up to invasive questions about your personal sexual life. In that way, I worry that being out at work will just lead to more conversations about sex and not less. To be single and not actively seeking a partner is quite controversial in today's world.

Thank you so much for this video, I really love when non-ace centric channels talk about asexuality because it really shows the diversity of ace lives

Great video 👍❤️ I came out last year as ace at the age of 48, I identify on the asexual spectrum but I just say I identify as asexual. I used to think there was something wrong with me, and then I watched a few RUclips videos and finally things started to make sense. I am ace and proud 😎 I think I would like to meet someone but being ace it might prove to be tricky, also I am happy being single again at the moment.

I haven't watched this video yet (I will soon), so my question is unrelated. I'm assuming you've gotten this question a lot by now, but I was wondering what you thought of the story that is presented in the Netflix documentary about the dude that supposedly fathered 1000 (or more) kids as a sperm donor. Have you seen it? Your comments? Inquiring minds would like to know! It would be cool if you could do an episode about it.

i look up to you so much. i’m 29 married and always considered myself asexual. for so long i just thought something was wrong with me.

Is it normal to be an ACE woman and wear make up for myself and not men?

Thanks for spotlighting and sharing info on our sexuality.

It seems crazy that for you to be a parent, you had to spend a huge amount of money. When other people can just go out, have sex and poof bun in the oven. It should be a lot cheaper.

your honesty and openness is so valuable❤ i always learn so much from every one of your videos

Thank you so much for making this video Bryony! Just a few weeks ago I figured out that I am somewhere on the ace spectrum and the whole thing has been very confusing and overwhelming to me. This q&a has been immensely helpful, please keep talking about asexuality 💜

Another opportunity to learn more about some of my favorite people. Thank you for everything you do. I am so proud of how you have diversified your channel and I get to learn so much but also just get to know you better!

I like your videos

I wonder if he had gas caught

I've been following since early in your RUclips journey and have only recently come to terms with the fact that I'm ace-spec and am planning to be a single mom by choice in a couple of years, following your journey with it has given me so much confidence in my own plan😊

I work full time in an average sized company.. We have 10 branches over South Africa. However I'm the only bookkeeper Head Office has... If I'm sick I still need to do it at some point, it's just behind 🤦🏻‍♀️ so it's not always better... At least I'll still get paid though... And you can feel proud about breastfeeding for that long! I stopped after 3 or 4 days 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

I’m so sorry, this is awful. I work for the NHS and in the process of leaving my current place because the professional standards are shocking. I really come to realise working there that ratings matter and management are everything. Luckily I can go back to my previous place which is a completely different attitude, not perfect but striving to improve.

Would love a video on any processes you have to streamline your day. I have two littles and find it so hard getting out the door and getting stuff done, and I have a husband helping me. I imagine you have had to develop some strategies since you can’t just pass the baby to someone else. Always looking for different methods to try out to make the daily grind easier.

This is so relatable. I’m not asexual but I am aromatic and I don’t feel like I am missing a partner in parenting. But I do have interest in having a baby through a friend or sexual partner.

Glad you feel better

When you're sick it can male your milk taste different for them so that may have been the issue too Edit: You just mentioned this after I commented it!

Food poisoning usually comes on quickly after eating the bad food... I was thinking you probably had a bug. The dairy situation is a whole other issue possibly! I'm sorry you've been so sick! Covid is definitely going back around here in the states too!

I got stomach bug symptoms with Covid, like I genuinely thought I had norovirus but I tested positive for Covid and normal flu like symptoms started couple days later

Yeah, I'd say COVID, too. It's got so many weird variants and affects people so many different ways. Be careful. Have your blood monitored if it was that, because I have lost a couple of friends now since they have gotten COVID to throwing clots. It's not really a minor thing, as much as people want it to be.

I'm glad you're feeling better.

Im glad your mental health wss not affected by weaning. Im amazed when i hear about kids who self wean like that. Mine is 3 yrs and 4 months. Finally night weaned and sleeping through night for the first time ever. Glad things are smoothing out for you.

Hi, so glad your feeling better! Loving the casual chatty series you are doing. I know in the past you have talked a lot about the Uk education system and being 'unschooled' and wondered what your plan were for your son moving forward?☺

Love the causal chatty videos. So happy to see you wherever you are at. Sending love and healthy vibes from Minnesota ❤

All of you had been feeling sick, maybe he was feeling sick too and that's why he screamed for so long? I hope you're all feeling much better now ❤

I relate to you so much - i love your channel it feels like I'm listening to a friend. I love the casual chatty catch up videos. I've also been sick the last 3 weeks with similar symptoms and now i thinking could of it been covid! I have ME/CFS and a few years ago it was really bad so i really relate to the feeling of, is this going to my new normal! Its so scary! xxx

I understand the part where you're worried about being poorly for a prolonged period. I had progressive kidney failure until it came to a head last year and I needed a double nephrectomy and the fatigue is horrendous. I also had a newborn at the same time, which was unfortunate timing. I luckily had a kidney transplant at the end of summer of last year and my immune system is so low that I pick up everything and the thought of going back to last year is a worry. Particularly as viruses can affect kidney function. I find it easier to take each day at a time and not to rush myself but also reach out to my medical team. Hopefully you have a team you can reach out to too, even just for reassurance. Sending lots of love!

Just to add I am thankfully better now! This was filmed a couple weeks ago x

Maybe you could get a part time employed job, thrn build an emergency fund. 3 to 6 months is usually a good amount.

COVID can cause diarrhea.

Good to see you sweetie. I hope you feel better and get everything you need to do done. 😊😊😊❤.